My elderly neighbor knocked on my door yesterday and I had been avoiding answering it lately because he’s just generally mean and grumpy and every visit it a complaint about my yard. He had a bag of veggies from his garden and he told me thanks for cutting down a tree recently and also that he’s been in therapy for the past 2 years and recently made a lot of progress and he’s not as mean anymore so if I ever need help with something to not be afraid to say hello or ask him for a hand. All I could do was laugh at his sudden self awareness and at his wife standing a few steps behind him slowly nodding. A therapist can help anyone, even just a grumpy old man.

Just a thought, (I told a friend in the same position as you) if he agreeed and you tried and couldn’t conceive, you’d also grieve and move one, because there was a “reason” you couldn’t have another kid.

Is not your partners adamant resistance and sureness he doesn’t want another kid also a good reason?

Signed,
Me, who for a long time was your husband and came to my own conclusions to TTC again

Yep. My dad died at 70 when I was 35, so that math prompted that same realization and the start of an early ish midlife crisis.

This was insightful but I’d love for more wisdom thrown at me.

How do I make piece with this, if nothing changes and I remain, forever, a parent of a single child, feeling like I missed out?